Handfasting Beliefs
Handfasting is an ancient marriage tradition believed to have inspired the phrase “tying the knot”. It appears in many cultures and faiths, each with its own customs and meanings.
Some say couples once lived together for “a year and a day” after their handfasting, choosing later whether to stay together or part ways. Others believe it began as a formal agreement between families.
The term “handfasting” comes from Old Norse, meaning “to pledge through binding”, though it’s often linked to Celtic traditions. Even modern church weddings can include a handfasting element – as seen in the royal wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton, which blended Pagan symbolism with Christian ritual.
Regardless of origin, what truly matters is the symbolism -two people bound together in love and commitment.
Handfasting Ribbons, Cords and Bindings
There are no strict rules about what materials to use. Ribbons, cords, lace, leather, or even fabric with personal meaning – such as a piece of a loved one’s clothing – can be chosen. This adds sentiment and connection to those who cannot be there in person.
Bindings can also be themed to match your ceremony – from seasonal palettes like Yule, Autumn, or Halloween, to styles such as Gothic, Viking, Steampunk, or even fantasy – inspired designs. No two sets are ever the same, just as no two couples are alike.
You can commission custom cords or make your own for a truly personal touch. Just as wedding rings are chosen by the couple, your handfasting bindings should reflect who you are together.
How Handfasting Ceremonies Are Performed
There’s no single “correct” way to perform a handfasting. Each celebrant or couple can adapt it to suit their beliefs and style. Traditional handfasting doesn’t necessarily involve complex knot patterns – the essence lies in the symbolic act of joining hands and binding them together.
Family and friends can help place ribbons or cords as vows or promises are spoken. The materials are then tied or draped to represent unity and everlasting love.
Afterwards, many couples keep their cords as a keepsake – in a frame, memory box, or displayed in their home as a symbol of their bond.